Are you in control or is life getting the better of you?

Whatever you believe about yourself, about money, about business, about relationships has a definite impact your life and the success of your business.  Most of us don’t even realise that we have self-limiting beliefs and then there is a large portion of the population who are oblivious to the fact that everything begins and ends with them.

Our world from the industrial age was created to make us live in a mindset of fear and in a mindset of separation.  We were programmed to believe that we are nothing and would amount to nothing and that we must work hard for everything we want and all for the sake of creating a slave workforce that would do the jobs required.  Don’t believe me? Watch Human Resources:  Social Engineering in  the 20th Century.  While watching this documentary on human behaviour and how you can control people with fear, I realised just how much my own life was impacted, and how it all started with my education at school.

The systems that the world created at banking and government level are designed to only benefit a small group of people.   It was designed to take as much resources as it can from people and from the planet and it was designed to only benefit a small minority BUT destroys everything else including the planet we live on and call home.  There is no escape from the system unless you decide to go and live in the jungle somewhere in some remote place.  The only choice you have is to adapt and make the system work for you.  It all begins and ends with you and its mostly down to attitude.

Now you may ask what does this have to do with social media and business?

As an online brand brand strategist, social media community manager, mentor and someone that thrives on helping people to improve their lives, the most important aspect of what I do is to understand people and relationships.  What is it that connects us?  Why do we do what we do?  My job is to understand the customer and the needs of the customer which is ultimately you and your customers.

As a business owner, I’ve experienced limitations within myself which has negatively impacted my business.  These would be things like picking up the phone and speaking to people, having to close a deal, selling myself, attending networking events, and dealing with personal life challenges.  Learning to overcome these challenges I’ve had to dig deep, very deep and deal with traumas, hurts, and belief systems from the past because they impacted how I behaved.  It impacted my confidence in certain business situations.   It’s often too easy to blame setbacks on other things, like, it did not work because we can’t work virtually, it did not work because the business coach did not understand what we wanted and so on  BUT did you check in FIRST with what your mind was thinking and how you were feeling?

Take a hard look at yourself and your life

The first step is taking a hard look at yourself.  Make a conscious decision if you want to have a better life, a better marriage, better business and personal relationships in your life then you need to begin with you and change you.  For years we are trained to always worry about other people’s feelings, and what people would think.  We are trained to keep up with the Jones’ to have the best and latest stuff.  We are trained to worry about the poor and be charitable.  Worry about the future of our children.  While all these may be valid, I believe and this is my opinion that we have it the wrong way round.  I strongly believe that you should be the number one priority in your life.  It’s time to put yourself first.  What about your feelings, your hurts and your stuff?  What about your financial struggles?

In order to be a benefit to others you need to be in a good space, mentally, emotionally and physically.

  • You need to be strong, fit and healthy because you are your biggest and most important asset.
  • You need financial success so that you are in a position to look after your family and your community and be a positive contribution towards society.
  • You need to love and feel loved so that you have the confidence to deal with life’s pressures and you can only have this with other people.

As a business owner I want balance in my life.  I want to be able to do the work I love doing and have the freedom to be able to impact the planet I live on but I won’t be able to achieve this result if I’m unhappy, depressed, angry with people harbour resentment or in over my head in debt.  I cannot bring change into my reality if I’m constantly blaming others for my current situation.   It all begins and ends with you.

It’s time for a reality check!

Who are you?  Do you like what you see?  What do you want?  What don’t you want, for your life and for your business and this includes those who are working too. On the surface you may think you are fine and you’ve dealt with things because you’ve just accepted the situation in your head and shoved it to a corner in your mind, “A don’t go there place”

If you have relationships in your life where you are not speaking to someone because of something that happened previously then you have not dealt with it.  If you have jealousy issues in your relationships then you have not dealt with what made you jealous in the first place.  If you cannot hold onto money, what belief system are you holding onto?  If you get offended easily by how others behave or what they say or believe in, then you’ve got issues.

On the surface people think they have gotten over their stuff.  Like the husband who cheated on you, the abuse you got from your peers at school.  The authorities who dictate how things work.  For years I’ve been plagued by things that did not make sense to me and I tolerated people’s rules and  behaviours and ways of doing things until I could take it no mare and I would explode!  I look at the world around us, the waste, the hurt, the damage and this is not only to ourselves but the damage it is causing to the place we call earth, the place which is our home.

It breaks me heart when I see broken people all around me.  It breaks my heart when I see news feeds and documentaries of waste and pollution and how careless we are and how it is killing the very things that keep us alive.  I see horrific things on social media sites like Facebook where people share stories of appalling behaviour that you think in your mind, “how does one allow yourself to do something like that to another human being or animal.”

As I step out of my house,  I see the earth as my garden, the earth is an extension of where I live and it saddens me to see the dirt, the pollution, the damage.  I struggle to wrap it around my head why someone would think it is acceptable to chuck their rubbish, stompies, paper on the ground, in the sea, rivers, mountains.  Have you stopped to think what you are doing to the planet?

In many ways I feel helpless because we are in this “system” that we created which an “elite” group of people control and we’ve become our own worst enemies.  It feels like no matter what we do, we can’t escape the inevitable because it is going to take more than a handful of people to make an impact, to make a real change.  When I look at people and see how blindly they go about their daily lives oblivious to what is really going on I feel out numbered.

I love what the industrial age has given us and most of us do.  I love the luxuries of sleeping on a bed, rather than on the ground in the bush.  I’d hate to wake up one morning to find there is no water and no more electricity.

I love technology, I love the internet, for the first time in my life I feel free!  The internet has empowered me. I’ve learnt things that I would never have learnt if the internet wasn’t around.  I am in a position where I have a virtual office and as long as I have an internet connection I’m in business.  I’m lying in my bed right now writing this blog.  I’ve escaped the 9 to 5 rut that kept me a prisoner.  I love social media because it opens my mind to explore new ideas, hear other people’s stories and to learn more about the people.  But we need balance!  We have removed and detached ourselves from nature. We have disconnected ourselves from one another and we’ve lost respect for ourselves and the planet we live on.  We are so consumed by life’s pressures that we’ve forgotten the fundamentals of life.  We need the earth, the animals and each other if we are going to survive.

I urge you to please watch this documentary, “What keeps us trapped here?” and ask yourselves is this really what you want?

  • Is this really how you intended life to be?
  • Is this really the life you thought you would have?
  • Or should I say is this really the life you want to live? Are you happy being a prisoner of society?
  • Are you happy living in fear?
  • Are you happy living with the status quo?
  • Are you happy living in a state of misery and depression?
  • Are you happy that you are no longer friends with some people or angry at family for their behaviour towards you?
  • Are you happy having to slog away like a slave just to put a roof over your head and a plate of food on your table?

If you answered no to all of these then what are you going to do about it?  The first step to change is to take a hard look at yourself and acknowledge what it is you want for your life and what it is you don’t want in your life and then start the process of change.  Change begins with you and it begins now, not later on when it is too late and you’ve lost the one you love, or you have no relationship with your children or when financial disaster strikes and how are you going to survive.  Change begins with you, not your husband/wife, your children, or your circumstances.

I know what it is like to have no time, to be broke, to have broken relationships to almost losing my marriage.  I use to work 12 to 16 hours a day with only 4 days off a month.  I was miserable, hated my life and was desperate for change.  I was exhausted when I got home and believe me the last thing I wanted to do was work on myself but I was desperate.  So I made changes.  I stopped watching the crap they have on TV.  I replaced TV viewing with educating myself by watching history channels on world structures. How to do things that I could use in my daily life, like dog training videos to train my dog.  I read books on personal development.  Watch talks, listen to audios.    I searched for answers to my questions and I began looking at myself.  Where I am, who I am, what impact do I make and how can I be an asset to this planet and add value to the world.  Whatever it is I wanted to learn I learnt.  I am my biggest investment as I’m the biggest asset I have.  If I don’t have the skills, the health, the knowledge how on earth can I benefit me?

What must I change in me so that I am:

  • Healthy enough to look after myself and others.
  • Wealthy enough to take care of myself, my family, the earth and my community.
  • Confident enough to speak up, voice my opinions, share my truth of what I believe is real for me and yet know that I will most likely be stomped on for sharing my views and opinions.
  • In a position to make an impact so that we don’t destroy this planet which in essence gives us life.
  • Bold enough to live in peace and not be offended by others truths in the hopes to restore and repair relationships.

It is only when we begin to drop our defences and let go of our fears and communicate openly that we can begin to move forward and live life on your own terms with a respect for the earth, it’s animals and human life then we begin to affect change.

Please let me know if this was helpful to you, it is important for me to know so that I can either
continue blogging about this or not.  If it was helpful please share with others, social responsibility
begins one step at a time, one person at a time and it begins with the world around you,
your family, your friends, your community.

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Romany Thresher

Online Presence Brand Strategist
Romany Thresher is a strategic thinker and natural connector with a talent for identifying opportunities for your business or venture. Organising, and overseeing your online digital systems and processes for your webinars and virtual events.  Website set up, email communications,  social media marketing and set up registration and feedback processes.  Ensuring that you collect the necessary information to help you obtain a better understanding of your customer’s expectations. Romany adds value to your business always being on the lookout for new opportunities to connect like-minded individuals who can add value to each other for a mutual benefit. Assisting you in online networking, lead generation, and giving you ideas and strategies to develop relationships with key stakeholders, sponsors, partners, and suppliers in your industry.  Working in the background so you don’t have to.  What do you need to implement and upgrade in your life and in your business and who do you need to align yourself with so that you and those you work with and collaborate with can make a positive impact in your collective environments and communities?  Let’s find out!

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